If you’re not heard, speak louder

Do you know you have a voice?

For many years I believed my opinion didn’t deserve to be heard. This meant I had a personal opinion at nothing. I took for granted that my parents’ words were right. I never questioned myself whether what people were telling was ok for me or not. I was a passive person. I was in the world, but I acted as a robot, continuously doing the same things. When I was bullied in school I have no idea how to react, I cried. I did the same at home when I was criticized. I got mad by being bullied, but I started to do something against it only during my teenage years. For many years, I simply existed.

I think I started to really wake up thanks to the anger I had inside because of the nice things I heard every day at school. So when I was 20 I started sharing Facebook posts on a page in which nobody knew it was me. I was very sad after a break-up and all the posts were very depressing. There I started to use my voice, finally!

Years passed, and I created/deleted/wrote again blog posts. Now I’m turning 31 in few weeks, and if I am writing here and on my personal blogs, well it means I have something to say. It means that more than ten years ago I finaly understood that I had to develop an opinion. I am not a passive person anymore. The more people tried to shake me when I was younger, the worse they did. Sleeping Beauty did want to stay with her eyes closed.

I spoke a lot with my former friends, but that’s it.

However, what happens when you suddenly start using your own voice? People are not used to that. They were used to a little shy girl who barely spoke, why does she even talk now? What kind of opinion could she have? So when I started communicating, two things occurred: I was not doing it really properly, or I wasn’t even heard.

I have developed a feeling to speak, to be heard and listened, to be read, for years, and this feeling still continues. But now people do listen to my ideas. If I compare my previous versions of myself with the current one, it feels a miracle happened. Now I am committed to communicate, and when I know what I’m talking about, people listen to me and read my articles.

I’m talking about this because it’s important to have your own voice and use it properly. People get used to you, they can take you for granted, and when you change you become “an unrecognisable person who never acted like that!”.

No matter what age, please speak your truth! And if someone goes away from your life…let them. Almost nobody empowered me when I was younger, so now I want to empower other people. I’ve become the adult I needed when I was a child, and I did it because I know what I need: The things I didn’t get.

Raise your voice, tell your opinion, and if you don’t have any ideas about a specific topic but you wish to, then go to someone more expert and ask. Take someone as example, create your own circle of people who empower each other.

If you feel you are not heard, then speak louder. Writing may help you, as people who want to follow and read about you, will decide it and click the “following” button. You don’t want to write? You can create! Use your creativity to produce anything you want: Pictures, paintings, drawings, songs, Instagram posts…anything! If someone does not appreciate your creations, then change person, but not the things you created.

Use your creativity to speak the things that matter to you. If you’re not heard, you may be told to shut up when you speak louder. Speak louder, let your voice and actions say and do great things.

Thank you.