Is Turning 30 a Threshold Crossing?
In exactly one month I’ll turn 30-something
On this day last year I was thinking about my last month at 29. I wanted to celebrate reaching the 30 threshold with my family and friends, but the pandemic disagreed. So I did myself the delicious tiramisù you see in the picture above, I wore a fantastic t-shirt, and I organized a videoconference with a couple of friends of mine and my sister. My father shot me some great pictures that day.
The year that led me from my 29 to my 30 was my actually threshold crossing, that is, 2019. Indeed, two years ago I had to accept some big failures of my life that changed it completely: I wasn’t in love with my (now former) boyfriend anymore, I wouldn’t have finished university during that year, many of the people I had in Austria (the place I lived for six years) said a silent goodbye to me when I left my partner and, as a consequence, his house.
Basically, 2019 was for me a revolutionary year, because I did a lot of mess. But it was the outcome of things I already knew, for so hard to accept them. When you want to establish some order in your life, you have firstly to produce confusion and chaos. Great! I did really a great chaos!
I thought 2020 would have been the year after the revolution, in which I would have made my world look better. I now understand that the year after a revolution is made by adjustments and efforts to better understand your path. You cannot simply to switch from failure to success without thinking at your mistakes and learning the lesson. Last year I didn’t reach all the goals I settled, but I am happy with what I achieved. I am prouf of my outcomes.
To me, it was not turning 30 the changing point in my life, but a whole life-changing process was my threshold crossing. If you’re wondering that something will change when you blow out thirty candles, then the answer is: NO. You’re exactly as the same person as the day before.
People may tell you: “Now that you’re 30, you have to be successful, have a good job, marry, have children…”, but actually you know you’re timing better than anyone else. Don’t listen to any of these “suggestions”.
Life is no competition race. Life is not about reaching and putting together a certain number of years that won’t come back. Life is about experiencing. When you experience failure, stand up and you will be a better person for yourself, not for anyone else. I’ve experienced failure a lot of times during my almost 31 years of my life, and I’ve stood up every time.
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