That time I felt overwhelmed when someone trusted me & how to cope with negative fellows

I was used to hearing only complaints about me. Every single thing I did or said was a reason to blame me, and I basically grew up this way (and still sometimes I have to hear such things…). However, I took these nice compliments and remarks and I transformed them into fuel for myself. Indeed, I discovered that discouraging people actually motivate me to do and be my best. It feels so good to see the disappointment in the eyes of those who never trusted my capacities.

This year, before my graduation exam, I was very nervous. As the due date was approaching, I was more and more stressed. Someone kept encouraging me and I discovered that I felt overwhelmed about it, because they trusted me. If no one trusts you, then you cannot disappoint anyone. If someone believes you can do it, but you don’t reach your goal, you may disappoint that person. I was well prepared and I passed the exam, obtaining my degree, but I acknowledged that it was the first time during my 30-year-old life that I experienced this feeling.

On one hand, this made me think about how my approach to negativity and negative people has influenced me during my life. On the other, I changed this approach to enchance my own thoughts. One thing I can surely suggest if someone is struggling because of demotivating people, is really to convert the negative remarks in your own power. Shrug your shoulders and live your life as you want, as you dream, and show them how happy and successful you are. Smiling and ignoring the disheartening ones is the best choice to take away their pathetic and pessimistic power on you. Your success, your happiness, will become someone’s else disappointment. This is actually very sad, because people who look for others’ unhappiness in order to console themselves are just frustrated human beings who cannot cope with their lives. So, instead of improving their own existence, they enjoy when others face difficulties, trying to put themselves in a good light. Spoiler: you only look even more miserable when you put someone down.

To my reader(s): have you ever felt you are fighting against the world? Was it really the whole world or “just” your fellows? How did you cope with it? Any suggestions or life experiences are welcome!